tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post2501248324148021788..comments2024-01-05T09:54:15.164-05:00Comments on lots and lots of nonsense: taking a break from the breastfeeding and the gestatinghalloweenloverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05226515861332754382noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-81809330949023824732008-04-01T23:44:00.000-04:002008-04-01T23:44:00.000-04:00So... when will you start trying for baby number 2...So... when will you start trying for baby number 2?Montreal Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02103033161117912806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-91136005568821457452008-02-10T09:26:00.000-05:002008-02-10T09:26:00.000-05:00I don't think men realize how physically taxing pr...I don't think men realize how physically taxing pregnancy is. Yes, yes, miraculous with your morning sickness, yada yada. But even if you're not sick (I never was), it is EXHAUSTING and UNCOMFORTABLE. You are growing a human being! It's amazing! But not easy.<BR/><BR/>Gabe sounds like he is a very active little guy (admittedly, almost ALL toddlers are)--there is nothing wrong with wanting to wait six months or 12 months or until he's in preschool 6 hours a week or until he's in kindergarten if that's what you choose. Because your pregnancy will make you, at a minimum, very tired.<BR/><BR/>Like other have said, age proximity is not a guarantee of closeness.<BR/><BR/>My 22 month spacing is, shall we say, a "happy accident" (due in part to my husband's fear that it would take us as long to conceive #2 as it did #1). So far there have been good times and bad times. Although it did save me from the "What's the perfect spacing?" debate, because I could have obsessed over that for years!<BR/><BR/>You can always wave the libido flag if you need him to back off ;-) Because there is nothing like an infant and a 2.5 yr old sleeping woes in tandem to grind that sex drive right into dust.<BR/><BR/>By the way, if you read Ask Moxie there have been at least a couple of posts on "ideal" child spacing that might be of interest to you both.OneTiredEmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12786020912408441766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-48155313752966770632008-02-09T21:04:00.000-05:002008-02-09T21:04:00.000-05:00Ha! That's hilarious. I don't think this is as u...Ha! That's hilarious. I don't think this is as uncommon as you think, though, what with all the gestating and lactating that we do (as you put it so well). M's been pushing for #2 since Chloe was three or four months old, and one of my good friend's hubbies has done this to her for every single child. Husbands. Aren't they cute.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-75709811000603743322008-02-09T15:03:00.000-05:002008-02-09T15:03:00.000-05:00Good luck with your decision! I hope that things w...Good luck with your decision! I hope that things work out however you'd like for them to ~ and I know that they will! Our children are 19 months apart. Meredith was a surprise blessing ... originally, we thought about TTC our second in August 2006, but funny ... I was almost *done* with my pregnancy by then! haha :) She is such a blessing. Having two children is physically EXHAUSTING at times, but it is *so* much fun!!!Lisannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10648271464200883121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-71250807953021623042008-02-07T21:44:00.000-05:002008-02-07T21:44:00.000-05:00My first three kids were each 2 years and 9 months...My first three kids were each 2 years and 9 months apart. If I were to do it again, I'd make that space even bigger; I just think it is easier when they are in completely different developmental stages, and I don't think closeness in age guarantees that they'll be friends. <BR/><BR/>That said, go with your gut. If you're ready, fine, but if you want to enjoy Gabe as an only for a while longer, don't be pressured. You'll know when you're ready.Rev Dr Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11607665272056430039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-20559692577628752122008-02-07T13:56:00.000-05:002008-02-07T13:56:00.000-05:00You could be like me and just let the "hot, hot se...You could be like me and just let the "hot, hot sex" from your last post do the work for you--just kidding. I am not trying to convince you, but I am happy that our kids will be 18 months apart for a lot of reasons. Still, it should be your choice... after all, you do the heavy lifting.My Wombinationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14683049001519679922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-69999426810411321592008-02-07T09:59:00.000-05:002008-02-07T09:59:00.000-05:00As far as the spacing goes--your kids might be em...As far as the spacing goes--your kids might be emotionally close if they're close in age, or they might hate each other. There's no way to tell. I'm close with my sister (2.5 years difference) but neither of us are close with our brother (4 years difference between me and him, but only 2 between my brother and sister). <BR/><BR/>That said, babies are sweet. Mine is only 6 weeks and I'm missing my newborn already.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-39833374614651779272008-02-07T09:42:00.000-05:002008-02-07T09:42:00.000-05:00Hmm...I'm in the throes of sleep-deprivation from ...Hmm...I'm in the throes of sleep-deprivation from breastfeeding a 9-week-old with reflux, so I may be biased.<BR/>BUT, while I think your Hubby is awfully cute and sweet, I think you should go with your own gut. You know first hand that pregnancy and the newborn period are tough- beautiful and sweet, but tough.Lady Liberalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13129420310530770936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-63549184175719702812008-02-06T20:32:00.000-05:002008-02-06T20:32:00.000-05:00My hubby did that to me. I knew I wanted more but ...My hubby did that to me. I knew I wanted more but didn't want to take away from how special our first one was for us. Some how he won and our girls are 20 months apart. I was so worried/freaked out when I found out I was preggo. My baby had just turned 1 and I was going to have another baby before she turned 2. But honestly it's the best thing we ever did, I love watching them together. They entertain each other and my oldest helps with her little sister. What ever you decide if it's now or later adding another baby to the family is going to be great!Knit Withttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08408679986608942932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-457345393788666152008-02-06T19:56:00.000-05:002008-02-06T19:56:00.000-05:00My kiddos are about 25 months apart and yeah, it's...My kiddos are about 25 months apart and yeah, it's tough at times, but I am so glad that they're this close together. The bond between them is amazing and I love seeing them together.<BR/><BR/>You guys will know when the time is right for you to have another one.mamatuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02692442843330582571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-42591951866334618492008-02-06T17:30:00.000-05:002008-02-06T17:30:00.000-05:00I totally get both of you. I thought I was pregnan...I totally get both of you. I thought I was pregnant last month and completly freaked out about it and then when I wasn't I was disappointed! Work that out? There is 5 years age difference between my 2 sisters and I and 2 between my brother. We are got on SO well when growing up (and still do). Rob and his brother are 2 years apart and don't. It's so hard to know. Go with your gut instinct and you know if a babe is ready to come along I am sure he/she will when the time is right for your little family.BabyMachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02005492484650666091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-8991165194753121722008-02-06T09:45:00.000-05:002008-02-06T09:45:00.000-05:00I think listen to yourself. You're the one doing t...I think listen to yourself. You're the one doing the lion's share of the work so it has to feel right to you.<BR/><BR/>If you recall, Guy has always been very sweet about family planning. I have him to thank for all 3 of our girls in more ways than one because I've always been a bit of a chicken when it comes to taking the plunge. <BR/><BR/>Actually, by the time we got around to TTC'ing Elle, I was SUPER DUPER READY (but Natalie was 4, hello!, time totally got away from us with that one). However, when I was ready to quit trying after many unsuccessful attempts and the whole infertility work up, he was the one who kept me going. <BR/><BR/>I do think it's terribly sweet of Josh to be so enthusiastic about fatherhood, don't get me wrong, but ultimately I do feel it should be mostly up to you and what you're comfortable with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-6514467017119236402008-02-06T09:21:00.000-05:002008-02-06T09:21:00.000-05:00As you know, we squish our kids together around he...As you know, we squish our kids together around here. I like the 19-ish month age difference, but that's because it's what I know. You know?<BR/><BR/>Selfishly, I'd be THRILLED if you got knocked up right now, but the difference of a few months is nothing in the grad scheme. Tell Josh to keep his raincoat on already. Sheesh.Chatty Crickethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13741907859944987779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-26333335561328770492008-02-06T09:09:00.000-05:002008-02-06T09:09:00.000-05:00Okay, I'm like the wrong one to ask. You see my gi...Okay, I'm like the wrong one to ask. You see my girls were 22 months apart. I never regretted it. In fact, it was perfect because they were best friends, they did play together and they loved each other so much!Maribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17435726542598515305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10449167.post-90510799955236012672008-02-05T22:53:00.000-05:002008-02-05T22:53:00.000-05:00Only having had the one, I can't speak to this...b...Only having had the one, I can't speak to this...but my sister and I are 5.5 YEARS apart and we were, are, and always will be great friends.Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.com